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Dr. Nerdlove Nerds and Male Privilege Part 2

This is one of the most common deflections when the issue of how women are portrayed comes up. It’s known as a false equivalence – the idea that two things presented together as equal when in fact they aren’t. In this case, the idea that just because women have exaggerated physiques doesn’t mean they’re sexist because the men are just as exaggerated too. Of course, this doesn’t work for many reasons. To start with, it assumes – falsely – that the things that women find sexy are the same things that guys find sexy; that is, the exaggerated secondary sex characteristics. But we’ll get to that in a second.

The other issue is the reason for the exaggeration. Comics and games are fantasy true, but the fantasy aspect differs when it comes to male and female characters. Male characters are a power fantasy; the large muscles and massive torsos are visual signs that this character is an unstoppable powerhouse. Kratos doesn’t look the way he does because Sony Computer Entertainment did focus-market studies and found that women reacted best to that design; he looks the way he does because he represents the powerful alpha-male that gamers want to be.

The women, on the other hand, are sexual fantasies. These are the rewards for the player – the character’s love-interest, the motivation to complete the game. They’re designed as eye-candy; they’re intended as something to be consumed, not something to escape into. Women like to fantasize about being desirable yes, but they also like to be powerful, and their definition of what they would consider to be sexy and powerful doesn’t mean battle-bikinis and thongs of power.

But hey, I’m a guy. It’s easy for me to sit here and proclaim what women find sexy, but I could be talking out of my ass. So why not take it to the source? I put out a completely unscientific poll on Facebook and Twitter about characters that women find sexy – video games, comics, anime, whatever. And the results? Well, let’s compare.

Up top we have the exaggerated figures that are supposedly sexy.

And here are the characters my female readers find sexy:

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Notice a trend here? These are not the massive beefcakes alpha-males that are supposedly as equally objectified as Kasumi, Ayane or Ivy. These men have longer torsos with much leaner builds; they’re built like swimmers rather than weight-lifters. They’re not men who scream “unstoppable physical power”. They’re lithe and dextrous, not barrel-chested juggernauts with treestumps for limbs.

And the other critical factor: it’s not just their builds that make them sexy. Gambit, for example is attractive because of his personality and his situation; he’s tortured because he can’t physically touch the woman he loves. Nightcrawler is the laughing swashbuckler, full of wit and flirty charm. Jareth is dark and mysterious and just a little dangerous and oozes sexuality.

Yes, the men are exaggerated as much as the women. But it’s the intent and the message that make all of the difference.

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deeersh:

Hey there aytag!
I got this teo in one of the giveaway threads, and I’ve decided he’s not quite my cup of tea, so I’ll be giving him away(FOR FREE)right here on tumblr.
One reblog and one like per person(you can reblog more if you want, but only one will be counted).This will end on the 1st, at the latest. I’ll be going on a little road trip sometime soon, and whenever I get back, I’ll be seeing about picking a winner here.

deeersh:

Hey there aytag!

I got this teo in one of the giveaway threads, and I’ve decided he’s not quite my cup of tea, so I’ll be giving him away(FOR FREE)right here on tumblr.

One reblog and one like per person(you can reblog more if you want, but only one will be counted).
This will end on the 1st, at the latest. I’ll be going on a little road trip sometime soon, and whenever I get back, I’ll be seeing about picking a winner here.

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sirtophatthethird:

dankou:

I’d rather you just tell me instead of you going around telling people how miserable you are or being subtle because that just makes it a lot worse for both of us. Even if you can’t bring yourself to tell me directly just ask a friend or something to pass on the message because, funny as it may be, I can’t read minds or always notice when I’ve done something wrong. Don’t worry about offending me - I feel more offended that you’d rather tell a bunch of strangers what you feel about me instead of talking to me about it. 

Yup.

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send me an age and ill tell you what i would have been blogging about when i was that old

heartofoshun:

It will no doubt be mortifying, but do it!

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whedonesque:

Nathan Fillion’s panel Q&A at Phoenix Comic Con | June 7, 2014 (x)

Q: If Firefly had gone on longer, what is something you would’ve hoped to have gotten to do with either just Mal or the story in general?

And they’re all beagles, right?

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“Smiling as a greeting is a caring gesture we all like to share. Smiling as a conditioned response to submission, compliance to others, objectification of oneself, or denial of one’s needs, is injurious to oneself as a complete human being.”

—   

Finn, Geraldine. Voices of Women, Voices of Feminism: Limited Edition. Fernwood Publishing; Halifax. 1993. (pg. 39)

It’s so frustrating when guys don’t understand why it makes a lot of women uncomfortable to be told to smile by strangers in public.

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isitscary:

My daughter is blind! She is blind and tiny and helpless and fragile. She cannot help you!

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Reblog if it’s okay to invade your ask box.

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makanidotdot:

this is my only hypothesis

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